Sunday, September 2, 2012
That phone is the least of your problems, lady
Here's a woman who is obviously terrified of her little girl- specifically, terrified of being seen as a "parent" rather than as a "best friend" or, as she puts it, "the bad guy."
Because mommy/best friend is so scared of getting on the wrong side of her little girl (how old is this kid? Ten? Twelve? And she has her own phone and unlimited talk and text? What the hell was this woman thinking when she agreed to this arrangement? Oh yeah- "this will prevent an argument" and "Dad won't approve, and I'll be the Good Guy again." Maybe she's worried she'll be dumped from her daughter's Facebook Account (you KNOW this little girl is on Facebook. All the time.) Maybe she just can't bear that "I'm not sure if I like you or not, Lame-Ass Mom" look Daughter Who Runs The House gives her whenever Mommy says something that does not include "of course I'll buy that for you, honey."
So cringing, frightened mom wrings her hands and reenforces daughter's entirely accurate opinion of mom- that she's a spineless, easily-manipulated asshat who can be batted around like a cat toy because she simply must be popular with daughter. Awesome.
Somehow, I don't think a brochure from the good people at CommonSense.com is going to fix this family's problems. Maybe years of therapy, but not a brochure. As a childless person, maybe I'm missing something, but wouldn't the easiest solution here be for Mommy to tell Daughter that she cannot use her phone as often as she has been doing, and if she fails to stay within Mommy's guidelines, the phone will be taken away?
Did I just cause heads to explode, or what? Once again I find myself typing, "what am I missing here?"